2022.01.25 10:41 Dark_Meta_Knight Every new "friend" I make seems to be a toxic bully and/or narcissist. How do I stop this cycle?
About Me I am 21 Male. The core problem is that I keep making toxic friends who end up bullying me. From what I gather they believe I don't respect myself.
I'm socially awkward and shy, but I'm very affectionate (verbally, not physically) as I'm an empath. I also get highly invested in all my relationships because I don't have that many friends, so my energy isn't stretched very thin. I remember a lot of little details of what people tell me, am very forgiving, and I often give more than I take.
Most of what I do for people I don't consider a big deal and doesn't take much time. A text with advice on something we talked about here and there, burning a CD for someone who's interested in my music taste, stuff like that.
What The Bullying Is There are several reasons I've been indirectly "told" why. They say it behind my back but towards me so I can hear it, a typical bully tactic to try to change someone they don't like. "He's too invested," "He doesn't respect himself," "He doesn't know how to communicate," "Player" (If I'm so nice that someone catches feelings, that is not my problem. You can be emotionally close with someone without sleeping with them, crazy stuff I know.) "Fake, Narcissist" (And other projection)
I even get verbally abused outside of work (work is where this started) just for my appearance. I have a "bored" neutral face, deep voice, and bushy eyebrows, so others often assume I have anger issues.
What I've tried I figure they're already just trying to make me look bad, so confrontation is of no benefit to me. Even when I've confronted bullies one-on-one (with a firm tone and full eye contact, mind you) they have always resorted to gaslighting in some form; minimizing my feelings, acting like they didn't say anything, etc. I block people who do that and avoid interacting. I just ignore people talking shit at this point. Confrontation wastes my time because they don't empathize with me, and it's a waste of their time because I'm not giving them what they want; change in myself.
I tried reaching out and initiating friendships myself, figuring that I just attract toxic people, but I've had the same results from most of them too...
I should make it clear that it's the loss of respect that bothers me, not what they're saying itself. I firmly believe in who I am, I just feel like not many others do.
End It's as if I'm so genuine and kind that nobody believes I'm real. I always feel misunderstood and feel like no one outside of my family really knows who I am. I get very anxious and nervous when making new friends because I expect the cycle to repeat itself.
Is there anything I can do besides just accept that only 5% of people I meet will understand me? Acceptance feels like the healthy option, since it's something outside of my control. (What others assume of me.)
I feel like this is more common than I think and a lot of people will empathize with it. Thank you for reading! :)
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2022.01.25 10:41 Humble_Brief2068 Picture I took last year while fishing in Florida
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2022.01.25 10:41 burton8493 Recessed lights
2022.01.25 10:41 Nick_TheReader Redditors, who work two (or more jobs). What is your story ?
2022.01.25 10:41 lukeymox Adolfo Mesquita Nunes declara que vai votar na Iniciativa Liberal
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2022.01.25 10:41 Tromantis Barry jumps
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2022.01.25 10:41 Klaasiker Crypto.com Visa Debit card: Free $25, free Spotify and 2% cashback on all purchases
So I tested Crypto.com and wanted to make my own opinion about it:
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2022.01.25 10:41 mo342hd I keep getting angry and break stuff
I always get angry at the simplest stuff and tend to break things. As a person coming from a poor family, everything is hard to replace. I just bought new wired earphones for my iPhone, and today I broke it. A lot of people say that I should maintain my inner dialogue and take control of myself. The problem is that I don’t have time to do that because it happens in an instant and I just break whatever is in my hand. I really need help on this one. I broke many stuff in the past and people say it fix itself over time, but I don’t see any change in the past 7 years.
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2022.01.25 10:41 PaulGaming_ Why am I not getting the last rewards since I have a 11+ streak, am I missing something?
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2022.01.25 10:41 Huge-Worldliness1184 Thinking whether to tell the girlfriend of a guy I’m involved with
I (30, f) am currently the 3rd party/fubu of a guy (27, m) who’s in a 9-year relationship. I’m starting to get feelings and he says he’ll stop once he is properly introduced to his girlfriend’s family. I’ve been meaning to tell the girl (27, f) just so I can get over this.
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2022.01.25 10:41 SixInTricks Got my Makergear M2 that I had stopped using 5 years ago cause I was too lazy to swap the Z-motor. "Why does this cube look like crap?" Says man who forgot that he used to use binder clips on the bed. Thought I could go 5 years without leveling a bed, but large prints are getting poor adhesion!
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2022.01.25 10:41 Ok_Culture_1581 Let's talk about the reaction you guys had when the empire lost and the beard became the strongest character
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2022.01.25 10:41 sus_sussy12 Anybody know any work from home jobs?
2022.01.25 10:41 Neb_Djed Stress leave means I'm a bad worker
TL:DR - I take stress leave and am reprimanded So I work at a place where cutbacks have reduced staff from 40 at our height to just 5 people, all expected to so more and more and almost all of us in "acting positions" which means working a job above but not actually being promoted to it. Endemic bullying and harassment issues that acting managers don't deal with since, you know, they're acting and untrained and don't want to take on that stress. I finally hit a wall, facing deadlines with no support, facing a colleague who thinks they are my superior despite being in a different department. I take in a health and safety concern and am made fun of by this person for my concern and finally break down under the pressure with suicidal thoughts and my doctor places me on leave for my mental health safety. My manager literally cries in my meeting with them to discuss my problems and find solutions and says they'll fix everything if I come back to work. Ok, I feel confident I can trust this person, i meán they cried. Well, it's my first week back and I'm called into a meeting and told they "can't have a person taking leave just because of a single incident", that I'm required to go on training to control my emotions and that if I feel stressed I should just "count to five" and I'll feel less stressed. Not really any resolution to this story, just feeling betrayed, let down, deeply depressed, and that if I ever feel like my physical or mental safety is in question i can't think about seeking help again. But you know, managers can't rock the boat by actually managing people...
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2022.01.25 10:41 Cygnet69 Please help
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2022.01.25 10:41 FrontpageWatch2020 [#139|+2322|79] $2,000 checks, retroactive back to March 2020 and up until 3 months after Covid settles down. Anything less is an absolute failure of Covid relief from our government. [r/ABoringDystopia]
2022.01.25 10:41 OfficialmONEy First GTI.
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2022.01.25 10:41 Red-misterioTV 3 ANOMALÍAS EN LA LUNA CAPTADAS EN VIDEO.
Nuestra Luna ha estado envuelta durante mucho tiempo por una cierta cualidad mística que nos ha mantenido esclavizados desde tiempos inmemoriales. Numerosas leyendas de todas las culturas han surgido alrededor de esa bola luminosa en el cielo, y un misterio muy curioso son las misteriosas luces que parpadean intermitentemente en su superficie, y para las que no hay una respuesta conocida. El fenómeno conocido como “fenómeno lunar transitorio (TLP por sus siglas en inglés)” puede tomar varias formas.
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2022.01.25 10:41 Chiron_89 OPV Mod Success
Just did an OPV Mod. Took 1 hour and was fairly straightforward. Measured difference? Before the mod I would empty the tray about once a day (I drink a lot lol) Now I'm emptying once every 5 days 😁. Also it's as if the water tank never runs out now 🦾
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2022.01.25 10:41 FrontpageWatch2020 [#891|+9230|76] call peta [r/shitposting]
2022.01.25 10:41 iFamousz Any good communities to join while you play OSRS , I’m finding it more enjoyable to talk to people while I’m playing to keep me on the grinds and plus it helps with my social anxiety ….
2022.01.25 10:41 kostaRakonjac A little theory
Imagine when Mitsuya joins Hanagaki they change their gang name to Black Dragons and take Mitsuyas fashion pieces that he created for that fashion show with twin dragon motives.
Probably not going to happen but it would be cool because it will show the respect for Black Dragons of the past and Draken in the same time.
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2022.01.25 10:41 GaryGaulin Likely energy source behind first life on Earth has been found ‘hiding in plain sight’. Study published in Frontiers in Microbiology links life’s biochemical beginnings to naturally occurring geochemical reactions. Learn more.
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2022.01.25 10:41 Severe_Candy1590 I want to buy my girlfriend an iphone 12 as a gift, what do you guys think?
2022.01.25 10:41 CalledRokket Here's a million dollar idea (Spoilers for LEGO Movie 2)
Zanta, but it's LEGO Movie.
Zanta is Rex (The Future Self of Emmet) Santa is Emmet (Who would have his hair switched instead of the hat) Tom is Benny Edd is Unikitty (Because it makes more sense that she'd get pissed at Benny for shooting the wrong Emmet.) Matt is Lucy/Wyldstyle (Because I need a character for Matt, and she's kinda the 2nd main character.)
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